SEL: Parent Social-Emotional Competence & Well-Being

by | Dec 8, 2023 | Resources

“When you thrive, your child thrives.”

What You’ll Learn
  • What is my role in supporting my child’s social-emotional development?
  • Do I need to practice social-emotional learning?
  • How can I improve my social-emotional competence?

If you’ve been keeping up with our latest SolBe blog posts, you’ll know all about social-emotional learning (SEL)—what it means, its effectiveness, what it looks like in practice, and the SEL developmental process. If you haven’t read these posts just yet, take my word for it, social-emotional learning is necessary. SEL is an opportunity to ensure the long-term success of all children, but did you know that SEL also benefits adults?

Parents, this is for you. It’s not too late to continue building your own social and emotional competence, and here’s how you can do it.

 

A Parent’s Role in SEL

As a parent and expert in your child’s development, interests, curiosities, cultures, and strengths, you play an essential role in helping your child become a responsible, caring, and thriving individual. You are capable of promoting social-emotional learning throughout your child’s life, but you might be wondering, “How do I do this?”. Social-emotional skills can be taught, and during next week’s blog post, I will share strategies to support you in doing this at home.

Today, I will share this important piece of information—children develop social-emotional skills only when taught by socially and emotionally competent adults. This means that the first step to promoting social-emotional learning is dependent on your social-emotional skills and well-being. When you thrive, your child thrives.

 

SEL for Parents

Social-emotional learning benefits everyone. Adults who focus on their social-emotional learning can parent more effectively and improve their well-being. In her review of research on SEL for teachers, Schonert-Reichl (2017), highlights that adults with high social-emotional competence demonstrate the following skills:

  • Recognize their own emotions
  • Use their emotions to positively motivate others
  • Understand their capacity and emotional strengths and weaknesses
  • Recognize and understand others’ emotions
  • Work to build strong, supportive relationships
  • Understand that others’ perspectives may differ from their own

Be mindful that these skills develop over time, even as an adult, and there is no expectation to demonstrate these skills perfectly or 100% of the time. For these skills to develop, parents need ongoing opportunities to reflect on their own social and emotional competence, as well as opportunities to practice, reflect on, and identify the social and emotional dimensions of parenting.

 

5 Tips for Parent SEL

Social-emotional learning is an ongoing process. Here are some tips on how you can practice and develop your social-emotional competence as a parent:

1. Pause and Reflect: Reflect on what’s happening and how you are feeling in the moment.

2. Practice Self-Care: Design a self-care routine to help manage stress and develop a positive emotional baseline.

  • Five minutes of meditation
  • Drinking water throughout the day
  • Taking a walk
  • Sleeping and eating well

3. Self-Soothe and Regulate: Develop simple strategies, such as deep breathing, that help redirect your mood and ground yourself in the moment.

4. Practice Self-Compassion: Feel all the emotions and allow yourself to make mistakes. When you feel you have made a mistake, show yourself kindness and know that you can learn and grow from what happened.

5. Seek Support: Consider seeking help for your own emotional and psychological well-being. Taking care of yourself is an act of self-care and benefits your child.

 

Parent SEL: Books to Pair

In between raising your little human, here are some books I recommend to learn more about your social-emotional learning and how to promote this with your child.

Confident Parents, Confident Kids: Raising Emotional Intelligence in Ourselves and Our Kids by Jennifer S. Miller

Permission to Feel: Unlocking the Power of Emotions to Help Our Kids, Ourselves, and Our Society Thrive by Marc Brackett Ph.D.

Raising Good Humans: A Mindful Guide to Breaking the Cycle of Reactive Parenting and Raising Kind, Confident Kids by Hunter Clarke-Fields MSAE

The Gifts of Imperfection by Brené Brown

 

Empowering Takeaways

  • SEL benefits children and adults.
  • Children’s social-emotional competence is dependent on the social-emotional competence of the adults in their lives.
  • It is not too late to develop your social-emotional skills.

 

Be vibrant and keep thriving!

This article was last reviewed or updated on December 8, 2023.

About the author: Rebecca is the Head of Family Empowerment and Student Success at SolBe Learning. Rebecca has worked in the field of early education for over six years, with a passion for supporting the optimal development of young children and families. Rebecca holds a B.A. in early childhood education and sociology as well as an M.A. and license in school counseling.

 

References

Collaborative for Academic, Social, and Emotional Learning. (2023). What is the CASEL framework? https://casel.org/fundamentals-of-sel/what-is-the-casel-framework/#social-emotional-learning 

Collaborative for Academic, Social, and Emotional Learning. (2020). SEL Discussion Series for Parents and Caregivers. https://casel.org/sel-discussion-series-for-parents-and-caregivers/?view=true 

Melnick, H., & Martinez, L. (2019). Preparing teachers to support social and emotional learning: A case study of San Jose State University and Lakewood Elementary School. Learning Policy Institute.

Ruiz, R., (2023, July 3). 5 Social-emotional skills parents. Mashable. https://mashable.com/article/sel-for-parents-social-emotional-skills 

Schonert-Reichl, K. A. (2017). Social and Emotional Learning and Teachers. The Future of Children, 27(1), 137-155. http://www.jstor.org/stable/44219025 


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